With Peter Banzon
Q: “I am living in with my boyfriend who separated from his wife even before we met. A friend said it is okay as long as we are happy and we’re not hurting anyone. But I feel something is wrong. What should I do?”
A: The reason you feel something is wrong is because God has placed inside of you a basic understanding of right and wrong, of what He approves of and what He hates (Romans 2:15). A live in relationship without benefit of marriage is wrong. God says it is fornication or sexual immorality. The Bible commands us:
“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body” (1 Corinthians 6:18).
It is sin. People who say it’s okay as long as you are happy and you don’t hurt anyone, do not understand God’s character. He is a holy God and sin of any kind violates His holiness. The first person you hurt is God because you have violated His holy character.
Even if your boyfriend has separated from his wife, in God’s eyes they are still married. God hates divorce. For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce. (Malachi 2:16). Therefore you are in an adulterous relationship with another man. God said “You shall not commit adultery” (Exodus 20:14). The right thing to do is to end the relationship! Ask God’s forgiveness and He will forgive you. God has a better plan and better relationships designed for you.
