“My husband, my children and myself are not on speaking terms with my brother because he was mad at us when we moved out of the family compound. I feel awkward about meeting him at our reunion this Christmas, but I know my mother will be glad to see us together again. What should I do?”
For the Filipino, nothing is as comforting as having the family living together in one location, one house, or one compound. So, when a segment of the family leaves this arrangement, those left behind may feel rejected.
I don’t know the circumstances of your leaving, but your brother feels hurt. The right thing to do is to take the first steps toward reconciliation. Avoiding your brother will only deepen the gap.
Don’t wait for the reunion. I suggest that even before Christmas comes, you initiate a dialogue with your brother. Ask God to bless this time. Continue to affirm your love and respect for him. You may not come to closure, but at least you will not feel so awkward seeing him at the reunion. Plus, having the family together will be a great Christmas gift for your mom.
Jesus said “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God”- Matthew 5:9
